Turbo Charge Your Love Life: Use All Your Senses

Beyond the gropings and immediate gratifications ofthat the culmination of our dance will be
the sexual dance of adolescence and youngunapologetically physical. Lightly touching each other,
adulthood, there is the quiet but intense satisfaction ofholding hands, dancing, embracing, are all techniques
a mature sex life. While the unbearable tension ofwe use to establish a physical bond with the other. We
youth may have dimmed, a physical union betweenshow affection to our pets and our babies by stroking
long-time lovers can be richer for the shared affectionthem and smoothing their hair. We want to intensify
and history that each partner brings to thethis same soothing contact with our mate by a
experience.The physical act of sexual intercourse candeliberate touching that builds tension through the
become more exciting and satisfying if it is viewed aspromise of more extensive physical contact to
the climax of a rising tension, much as happened in thefollow.The odors of courtship have been studied
early days of your relationship. Somewhere along theextensively by the perfumeriers who attempt to
line "making love" became transformed into "havingcapture the subtleties of physical arousal in a bottle,
sex." The intricate rituals of courtship and datingattempting to make a fortune. While manufactured
evolved into a quick hustle before falling asleep. Wescents can be pleasant and provocative, their effects
need to periodically recapture those rituals to build thepale before the innate prehistoric abilities nature has
momentum needed for climactic, explosive physicalwilled us. When we feel the desire to reach complete
sensations.Start rekindling those old feelings by creatingintimacy with our partner, our bodies respond by
events in your life that involve only you and your lover.excreting pheromones, communicating our readiness to
Learn to periodically step back to the dating phase ofcouple as distinctively as an animal in heat signals the
your relationship. How long has it been since the twogo ahead to potential males in its vicinity.This powerful
of you went out for a romantic dinner in a dimly litmagnet cannot be sprayed on from a bottle, it must
restaurant? How long since you last flirtedemerge out of the emotions and sexual tensions that
outrageously with your partner?Flirtation is not teasingare slowly aroused during the game of courtship and
but a subtle promise of what may happen if everythingseduction. Trying to hurry their onset or expecting
falls into place. It involves all the senses and temporarilyinstant arousal only short circuits their appearance.
elevates the body created by nature above the mindThey must be allowed to build gradually and naturally
developed by man.Sight includes the smile of the other,as part of an overall ritual of mutual want.The taste of
a shake of the hair, a bounce in the walk. It mayintimacy is the kiss, an exchange of all the senses
involve blushing or bravado, depending on yourcoming down to us from the dawn of our species
personal style. Its goal is to become the total focus ofwhen our race was born and pre-programmed to
the other's attention, excluding the rest of the worldcopulate and reproduce. We kiss many people in our
from the special interaction between the two of you.lives: friends, family, and children, just to show affection.
Sight can also be physically stimulating through theBut the romantic kisses of lovers are in a class by
viewing of romantic or sexual material. Men seem tothemselves. Long, lingering kisses, tongue kisses, light
respond best to pornography whether hardcore orkissing and licking of slightly salted skin, all are of
soft. Women more usually prefer romance mixed inprimary importance in building the desire and readiness
with any graphic sexual scene and prefer titillatingfor a full physical union.We speak of someone as
movies or television shows to reels of blue action.being a "great kisser," while the kisses of others leave
Women also tend to respond to words rather thanus cold. The difference is seldom in the technique but in
pictures, a predilection that has created a huge industrythe feelings that are aroused. If we care deeply about
of romantic novels and gothic mysteries. Whateversomeone and want desperately to be with them, even
the individual preference, sight is an integral part ofa light touch of the lips can evoke delight and
emotional and physical arousal.Our sense of hearing isexcitement while the well-developed techniques of
intensified by low, intimate tones that amuse, delight,others seem mechanical and dull.Rekindling the
and entice. On a romantic date, we talk about eachsensuous buffet that is dating can infuse a freshness
other, not about other people, or work, or world events.into the most long-established partnership. Set up a
We talk about how we feel about the other. Wedate, prepare for it as if it were your first encounter,
positively nurture the other's emotions and ego toand let your body take care of the natural responses
make each of us feel that, if for only a brief moment inthat follow when you disengage your mind and your
time, we are perfect. Beneath the words uttered, weraw, primitive side emerges to evoke the pleasure and
sense the feelings of the other and respond in asatiation that an evening of well-paced and drawn out
mutual exchange of affection, respect and desire. Welove making can provide.Dr. Bola is giving away
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pervades our interaction because of our awareness